No intro necessary- here's the question:
Your best friend is dating a guy whom you've never met. She talks about him all the time, its apparent that she is really feeling him and she tells you that they are talking about being in a committed relationship so she would like for you to meet him. She sets up a dinner date for you to meet him and then you realize that this is guy that you've had a sexual fling with before.
What would you do?
No, this isnt my situation (I would surely tell you all if it was) and I dont have an answer yet but I would like to know what you all would do.
15 comments:
I would of course keep it classy and have dinner like a hungry ass, excuse me, civilized young woman who respects my friend.
And of course, her being my bestfriend would be told about the little fling that obviously meant nothing cause she as my bestfriend didn't even know about it.
It shouldn't ruin any relationship with her being your friend nor him being her man
Keep it 100 with her, but still have some fun. Say some slick shit like "long time no see...I didnt know you knew _____." then give him some time to elaborate.
If he doesnt, you tell your girl. Sheeeeit, maybe he puts it down (no homo) and as long as you and old boy weren't "romantically involved" she might as well give him a whirl. Maybe he even eats pu**y.
Key is, put it out there. A Secret is only good if its victorias...or if you have funky underarms.
Btw ladies, the eurpoean look is not in. Shave.
Paz
Ouch! Ok all feelings aside. Shyt happens and most cities are small. I'd say have lunch, talk it over, be honest. Then if she can live knowing that her bestie had a fling with her new man then all is well.
I would tell her when she asked me what I thought about him. I would say, "Hmmm What do I think about him? What do you think about smashing a homie before the fact?"
Nah. I would tell her though cuz it could backfire if I didn't and she found out. The sooner the better. Hell dude might even beat me to it anyway so...
The big question would be what will the girlfriend do when she finds out!!!!
I'll just say something to her about it. There's no need to hide that... plus, she should know if she's thinking about being romantic with dude. It's respect. Then whatever happens after that, happens.
Yep I'd tell her about it. Chances are I may have talked about the fling with her so she may know the details and not the name/face.
There isn't harm done unless you keep it a secret and she finds out.
This is your friend so complete honesty is a must. I would of course wait until after dinner so that there isn't awkwardness and you don't want to steal her moment. She definitely needs to know though. They can't build relationship on such a huge secret just like you can't call yourself a friend for keeping one that involves her.
I would have to tell her, and seeing as how I'm a lesbian and the gay community is so small, this would be a likely scenario. Better tell them now before thingss get too serious and she finds out second hand how I taste by kissing her
I'd have to tell her because it may come out at some point. That's hella awkward tho.
Tell her...whatever happens next would be up to her. *shrugs*
This ALMOST happened between my sister && I. She kept telling me about this dude she was exchanging messages with via myspace so I finally went to see who she was talking about. Come to find out, it was somebody I **cough! cough!** with in the past so she was like "OOH nononono!!"
That was the end of that. :)
ooh la la. your comments are helping me with a situation of my own. gracias khaki!!!
i would tell her. its not a good look
this is easy.
tell her!!!! there is no sense in keeping it a secret. men are boastful. so he'll be more than eager to tell her "hey, i smashed your best-friend (cheese)." && you don't want it to be an awkward situation when she has to come back to you like "ummm, soooo, yeah....what happened with you and such & such." yeah.
tell her. its nothin'. its liggghhtttt.
i thought there was gon' b some fightin' words or some shit......
you gotta tell because if you don't if she finds out (i mean WHEN she finds out) she's gonna be mad as hell and wonder why you hid the truth.
it also depends on the chick and the dude. i've got a cool bff and she and i got with some of the same dudes back in the day before she and i knew eachother, so it wouldn't be a big deal. but i've got a few other homegirls that would be so weird and uncomfortable that if the dude is cool and i trust him not to shoot off his mouth, i may just keep it to myself.
do nothing..it was a sexual fling, you two were not in a relationship so theres nothing to be done. you can tell her if you want but thats about it
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