I've been very quiet about the Chris Brown & Rihanna ordeal for a few reasons but the main reason was because I wasnt in the car and was only hearing one side of the story- Chris Brown's.
It wasn't until Rihanna's 20/20 interview that I really came to my own opinion about the situation: this was not DOMESTIC ABUSE. This was a case of a young couple getting into an argument started by the "victim" that escalated into into a physical altercation. I have witnessed domestic abuse. I have done case studies and mock trials of domestic abuse cases so I see a difference between Ike Turner and Chris Brown.
Chris Brown did not BEAT Rihanna up. They fought each other and he got the best of her. Some would question whether or not it's wrong for a man to hit a woman regardless of who started it or who hit whom first. I would respond that its wrong for anybody in a relationship to put their hands on the other person. If this happened between two women in a relationship would one get be treated like the victim while the other is condemned like Chris Brown? If this happened between two men in a relationship, would anybody care? There's a difference you say? Ok, would a 5 ft 11 300 lb woman fighting her 5 foot 9 150 lb boyfriend be looked at as the same?
I, in no way, shape or form, agree with domestic abuse and I despise men that beat on their girlfriends, wives, or significant other just for the hell of it. No woman should live in fear that when they get home they may lose their life because dinner wasn't ready. No woman should wake up in fear that she may get punched by her significant other.
Fear is what distinguishes Rihanna from the real women that are abused by the men in their lives. Rihanna wasn't being controlled by Chris Brown and she wasn't fearful of him. Had she been afraid of this "monster", she wouldn't have even approached him about the woman that text him. Victims do not confront their abuser.
I've watched that interview a few times and I am disgusted by her. Each time I watch it, I want to slap her a little bit more. The white turtleneck sweater dress, the barely there makeup and colorless hair? That's not the "Disturbia" Rihanna that I know. Where's the barbwire over the titty, 1B haired, pointy red nails and leather bearing Rihanna that the paparazzi catches on a daily basis? Maybe she's hiding under an Umbrella. This whole time Chris Brown has come across as a monster, an abuser and as Ike Turner 2.0 while she's partying and playing the victim role.
Chris Brown was wrong but equally wrong as Rihanna. No one should have been touched in that car. Had the picture of her bruised face not been leaked out from TMZ, I'm sure that they would be happy and sappy in love right now. Rihanna wants to speak out for women that suffer abuse but how can she when she's never been abused? I refuse to allow a young woman that took advantage of the media to be a spokesperson for the millions of women that are abused on a daily basis. She is not a fair representation of the women that are abused, kicked, punched, dragged outside naked, slapped, spat on, burned, raped or living in fear. She is a woman that weighed her options- love or money. She is a woman that knew America would want to paint Chris Brown as an abuser and if she deviated from that plan she too would be chastised and her career would be over. She didn't speak up about domestic abuse to save America's youth; she spoke up because she had an album coming out and millions of dollars on the table that were threatened because she went back to her "abuser".
Everybody is throwing mud on Chris Brown's name and condemning this man who made a mistake. A mistake that could've been avoided had both of the parties been mature enough to handle their relationship. No one is stepping up and holding Rihanna accountable. Ya know- the Rihanna that said "would it matter if I hit him first?". That' s right- she's the victim.