22... that's how many women saw this post title and decided to un-follow me or call me an ugly bitch. "No, not my man"... uh, yes, your man too :Eddie Murphy voice:
Now, for the rest of you that actually decided to read the rest of this post without judgment, this is my point- every guy that has ever told me that he wanted to cheat on his girlfriend with me all had one common complaint: "shorty isnt who she was in the beginning but I love her/we have children/she looks out for me". We arent talking about the men that cheat just because their dick gets hard and pussy is available... I'm talking about the genuine good guys that find themselves having to decide between "love and like". The "I love my girl but I dont like that bitch anymore" guys. Yeah, those guys do exist and I'll tell you why.
Women are probably the biggest deceivers known to mankind and we aren't always the most honest with men in the dating stages of a relationship. The mask of a confident, self assured, and selfless woman is usually used to conceal a self conscious, negative, controlling and selfish bitch. We'll pretend to be something that we aren't just to snag a man. Sad, i know, but that's true shit. The problem with the whole bait-n-switch tactic is that you cant live the rest of your life pretending to be sweet and classy Beyonce when you're really Sasha Fierce- a hoodrat draped in tacky ass Dereon . You aren't cool enough to have an alter ego and he's not buying your double disc of bullshit. He'll fall in love with you but he'll always cheat on you with the person that he really likes and that person you pretended to be.
Contrary to what you may believe or think, men know what they want and its NOT all about looks. I know a guy that left his 10 for a 6 ( i know
My friends have gotten cheated on and always ask "why her over me?". I ask them "why not?". Yes, cheating is wrong but at what point do you accept responsibility for your actions and role in the failure of your relationship?
:pours liquor out for the 52 followers that just disappeared:
Hear me out! You pretend to be cool with your dude hustling and supporting him... but then bitch and moan when he acts like a hustler. BREAKING NEWS!!!! Hustlers don't go on dates and they don't care about "Why Did I Get Married?" They don't come home by midnight. When he cheats, because he will cheat, guess who he's going to cheat with? A bitch that will bag his weed, do time for him and sell her snatch to bail him out. A bitch that actually doesn't care if he runs the street all day. How can you fault him for finding someone that had the same common interests in him?
Why is it that the title "girlfriend" changes a woman so quickly? You no longer like to play video games, you suddenly hate everything rap related, you packed them stilettos up and traded them in for sweat socks and dead ass BK's and you don't really like to cook now, do you? Dating and relationships is just like buying a car and you know what? You're a lemon. A fucking 88 Ford Fiesta with shiny 12 inch spinners and a spoiler. He drove you off the lot and as soon as the warranty expired, your paint peeled and you broke down on the highway of love. How is that fair? Shit, if there were Coochfax reports for women that told a man that you had high miles with several accidents, stank ass interior and rusted exterior under all that MAC most of you would be in a junk yard somewhere waiting for hundreds of men to pick parts from you.
Moral of the story: Changing who you are to get a man will never work and there is no foolproof way to stop a man from cheating on you. However, you can lower the chance of you ending up sounding like a Fantasia song by just being who you are from the jump. Your man has to like you before he can love you. Loving you may make him stay but liking you will make him want to stay.
So there- I've just passed on one of the benefits of having a bunch of male friends to you. You've received some of the inside scoop to that million year old question "why her?" so don't call me a conceited, fat, ugly, stupid bitch because, well, I know I am but could still take your man and then write a blog about it.
:thumbs up, fist pumps and pelvis thrusts for all:
Now, let me ask the women readers this: Do you think that you change after entering a relationship?
Now, for the men: If you've ever cheated on your girlfriend and actually fell for the other woman, what was it about the other woman that made you fall for her? What was the reason why you cheated in the first place?